Wednesday, July 2, 2008

I need guidance..


This divorce has shaken the foundation of this entire family. Sure, I'm in pain, but my daughter Judy is who I worry about most. She's visibly less happy. I’m trying not to be angry at Jenevive for creating this mess. How do I help Judy when I too am angry and upset?

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

I have no idea wht to say to you man- get over it - u have to protect your daughter - how old is she anyway. be angry all u want but get it out of your system away from her.

Unknown said...

I may not be entitled to say this since I am neither married or divorce, but I am a strong believer in having yourself serve as the foundation of control through this relation change. Your daughter's happiness will grow as soon as your own expands. It all starts within and one way of accomplishing this is changing and re-evaluating your own perception of the events and situations around you.

Anonymous said...

Hang in there Max. I know you're going through a lot yourself, but if you can try to keep those emotions hidden from Judy and continue to reasure her that everything will be alright...your worry for her will lesson as she seems more and more content with the situation.

Dulcinea said...

Many of us have been there, Max (in Judy's position), and we got over it. Let her hurt a bit; she'll be ok — as long as you are.

Anonymous said...

This is the issue that all parents struggle with on a daily basis. Go day by day. If you have a bad day, know that you can make it better tomorrow. Don't let guilt consume you. Children are resilient.

Anonymous said...

Max, I understand your pain, everyone hurts when a relationship ends. I think the most important thing is to remember your daughter and how she is being affected by all of this. My parents got divorced when I was a child and they used me as a pawn back and forth and I have never forgave them for it. The put their own hurt feeling first before their own child, and I guess the point that I am trying to make is to make sure that your are thinking of your daughter's feeling first and yours second because this is affecting her more than you might even realize. Be strong Max, for you, your daughter and your ex-wife.